When watching “Love your doing it wrong” one of the main things he was supposed to be talking about was love.  But he started off his speech with defining love as the desire to be desired, which opened up the question that got me thinking of how does one become desirable and then stay desirable?  It is true that in today’s world you are free to value anything however you want too, and likewise everybody can value you however they want too.  This seems like a major problem because every single person wants the freedom to decide what they like, what they love, and what they don’t like and hate, but nobody wants to allow another person to tell them they aren’t good enough and aren’t worthy of their love; or for that matter anyone’s love.    Yann Dall'Aglio answers this problem by letting us know that people try to collect traits that will make them desirable and loved and then ultimately happy, whether they do this on purpose or not.  The grant study used a lot of information to show if the people in relationships were really happy and why?  I think that was a big difference between it and what Yann was speaking on, because he was focusing a lot on Love, but more on what it truly meant to be loved and to love others unconditionally.  The Grant study did connect with “Love Your doing it wrong” when it did find that some people were not happy and got divorced, and to me this was the same as Yaan confirming people have the freedom to value or disvalue anyone or anything as they please.  Yaan really seemed to be speaking on the uncertainty of whether or not the love for something or somebody will always stay.  This all hit home to me because even though I really don’t like that people have the right to pick what they like and why they like it I still respect that you can do that, because I personally love being able to decide that I love someone or something on day and then in two weeks just decide I don’t like it all.